“The only way to do great WORK is to love what you do,” says Steve Jobs.
“I don’t think of WORK as WORK and play as play, it’s all living,” says Richard Branson.
I agree wholeheartedly with their sentiments. I have the greatest job in the world as far as I’m concerned, I absolutely love with every fibre of my being what I do for a living. I’m privileged to work from my home office most days working one on one with amazing people. I sometimes venture out of my work nest into the corporate world, or into schools, ladies luncheons, rehabs and jails running workshops with others to help with ways to improve their level of emotional fitness. The win-win for me is that I can’t help but work on my own emotional fitness with them as I WORK with them. Like a personal trainer that trains with up to 10 clients a day, that is my day from Tuesday to Thursday. And as no two clients work exactly the same emotional muscle group, no two sessions are ever the same, the variety is engaging, and I get a fantastic workout each day. Yes I’m emotionally spent at the end of the day, but exhausted in the most delightful way.
Mr. Delicious my hubby gets up at sparrows fart too to exercise with our super fit German Shepherd Max. So often so in the evenings we get our pj’s on hold hands on the couch together in united exhaustion. We’re often in bed or one of us is asleep on the lounge by 9pm, contented bliss, I love my life.
However, I am also a recovering addict (for the newbies to my DWV a recovering alcoholic/addict) since 1995. My therapist who is a few decades older than me, I’m in my fifties and she calls me a girl, I just love it! She informed me a few years ago as I faced immense anxiety giving myself permission to take an 8 week break to go on an overseas holiday that I needed to WORK less, and surrender to more heart time. She knew that I need to continue to build my level of emotional fitness by being able to give myself permission to continue to take more time off with each passing year if I still want to be working and loving what I do when I’m her age.
So as a recovering WORKAHOLIC I took her advice and reduced my five day client week down to four a couple of years ago. I then found that this deliberate reduction did result in my being more efficient and relaxed in all areas of my life. However it still left my other great love “writing” on the back burner. So last year I reduced my client work to three days a week and introduced one day a week for writing projects.
As a recovering addict continuing to surrender ego based pursuits and replacing them with quiet times with my heart has felt way too confronting. But as Carl Jung wisely advises us…
“We spend the first half of our lives building an ego and the second half dismantling it.”
A classic line from any addicts mouth when it comes to their ego enslaved love affair with booze, drugs, gambling, cigarettes, work, excessive exercising or food is…
“I could give it up if I wanted to, I just don’t want to”.
Sometimes being super busy is self righteous armour our ego chooses to wear to hide behind. Putting love before ego is what emotional fitness is all about. In every aspect of our lives. We are healthier, happier and more emotionally available when we let go of our fears about money, business (busyness) and others opinions on who and how we “should” live.
If WORKING owns us outside of the home, relationships inside our private world will always require extra WORK. However, when our WORK ethic shifts from honouring everyone else to honouring our truth inside of the home, guess what? Relationships inside our private world require less WORK for we’re no longer drained and tired, but more fulfilled and relaxed.
If you can hear yourself consistently complaining about yet defending the hours you WORK perhaps a review is overdue. From one recovering WORKAHOLIC that once found relaxing stressful I offer you this Daily Word Vitamin to digest. If you are currently feeling that your ego pursuits are easier to fulfill than your heartfelt desires the cure is not in WORKING harder. The key to a fulfilling life as we mature is in surrendering our ego fueled busyness and spending more time at home with our heart.
Lotsa love Cynthia xxx
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