Happy Valentines Day!
If you are in a relationship, you’re probably been experiencing the pressure of buying the right present, making reservations at the best restaurant and delivering a night of romance. If you are single, well, Valentine’s Day is an in-your-face reminder that you don’t have the relationship that most people think you should have.
What if, this Valentine’s Day, single or in a relationship, you skip the roses and chocolate and made the day about you? If you are in a relationship, you might be a bit hesitant with this idea but couples don’t have to follow the crowd to celebrate their love. In fact, your relationship could benefit more if you turn your back on tradition, and choose to do things your way.
Start to ask, ‘If I had no past and had no points of view about Valentine’s Day, how would I like to honor and celebrate me right now?’
YOU are the most important ingredient in any relationship you have. YOU are the most important ingredient for your life. When you choose to nurture you, everyone in your life benefits.
Here are 3 unconventional ways to spend Valentine’s Day:
- Make a Gratitude List
Start by making a gratitude list for you. What are you grateful for about you? What gift are you to the world? What contribution are you to everyone you meet? Would you be willing to acknowledge you?
Gratitude has a way of expanding and increasing. When you choose to have gratitude for you, it expands to include others too.
- Practice Generosity
Who or what could you contribute to you? There are lonely people in the world. Your kindness, your smile, your willingness to be you makes a difference. What’s something you could contribute to that would be fun for you? Perhaps it’s volunteering at a school or bringing food to a food bank. Maybe you could help clean up a park or visit kids in the hospital. Rather than trying to create the perfect Valentine’s Day or sulk over the fact that you don’t have a relationship, find a way to give back. And, if you are in a relationship, you might want to do this as a couple. The act of giving will improve your outlook on life and bring you closer together.
- Lose your mind and focus on your body
What physical activity is fun for you? What does your body love to do? Swim? Run? Maybe it’s Pilates or Yoga. When you actively choose to do something that is fun and nurturing for you and your body, not only will you feel better; you will also have more energy for the other things, and people, in your life.
Rejuvenate you by making your body a priority on Valentine’s Day. When you are rejuvenated, your relationships benefit too.
Regardless of your relationship status, regardless of the significance, expectations and points of view of others regarding Valentine’s Day, you can create a day that’s fun for you. Be willing to live outside of the box. Be willing to give up conformity. Choose activities that truly help you connect, celebrate and enjoy Valentine’s Day.
About Dr Dain Heer
Dain Heer is an internationally renowned author, speaker and facilitator of consciousness, and change and for the last 14 years has been inviting people to embrace their true greatness. His book, Being You, Changing the World – Is Now the Time? is published in seven languages. For more information visit http://www.drdainheer.com