We tend to think of our emotions such as anger, sadness or guilt, as something to avoid at all costs. But research finds that negative emotions, anger in particular, also have an upside.
Putting your negative emotions to good use.
All emotions are useful, even the ones we tend to think of as negative such as anger, embarrassment, or sadness. Embarrassment can be thought of as an early warning sign of humiliation, and signals you’ve made a mistake and maybe need to make a behavioural correction. Guilt can indicate you’ve violated your personal ethical code. And few would deny the importance of learning to sit with sadness, especially when you’re grieving or coping with disappointment.
In 2015, I attended the ‘Happiness and Its Causes’ conference at Luna Park in Sydney. I was lucky enough to meet and interview a few interesting authors including Gretchen Rubin (The Happiness Project) and Ruby Wax (Oxford Neuro-grad (!!) and comedian who somehow ended up interviewing me instead).
I also chatted to Robert Biswas–Diener, whom someone once called the ‘Indiana Jones of Positive Psychology’. He told a captivating story about travelling to a small village in northern Greenland on a research trip. The first day there he faced terror (his boat nearly capsized in icy water), he was cold, wet and hungry, had to hunt for his own food (then kill, cook and eat it), faced humiliation at his lack of hunting skills and was laughed and taunted by the village children. He says it was the BEST day of his life!
My boys loved Rob’s story when I recounted it to them, and I think it has plenty of lessons for adults too. Much of his research is on comfort addiction — how our modern day lives leave us little room for discomfort or negative emotions. How we tend to think of our emotions such as anger, sadness or guilt, as something to avoid at all costs… that we should strive for happiness, only.
But Rob has found that negative emotions, anger in particular, also have an upside,
“All emotional states have their place. Trying to shoot for 100 percent happiness is unrealistic.”
Simply put, people who are able to use the whole range of their natural psychological gifts – those folks who are comfortable with being both positive and negative are the healthiest, and often the most successful,”
Professor Barbara Fredrickson, a social psychologist who studies emotions, agrees. She believes there’s an important role for our darker side. In a recent interview with ABC’s All in the Mind program she says,
“There is no emotion that needs to forever be banished. What’s most useful about negative emotions is that when they are really fitting the current circumstance.
If you are experiencing some injustice, anger is very useful for energising our response to that injustice. If we are facing a loss, then sadness is fully appropriate.”
How anger can be a force for good
Although it’s often associated with abuse or lashing out, anger can be important, and research finds that anger can be a force for good.
- Anger motivates you into action, especially when you believe you’ve been treated unfairly, or something is blocking your way to accomplishing a goal.
- Anger sparks creativity. People given the creative brainstorming task of coming up with as many as possible uses for an everyday object such as a brick, paperclip or chair, perform better when they’re angry than when they are sad or non-emotional.
- Bottling anger inside is bad for your health. People who bottle up their anger in response to what they feel is an unjust attack, are more likely to develop bronchitis and heart disease, and are more likely to die earlier than peers who let their anger be known when other people were annoying.
- Anger increases optimism. People who have been induced to feel mild anger in the lab take bigger risks in gambling tasks; they’re more inclined to explore the boundaries of possibility. Anger makes people feel they have more control over a situation and its outcome, and they’re more optimistic that taking risks will pay off.
- Anger focuses your attention. Positive moods causes your mind to be more open or more likely to ‘see the forest’, so to speak, whereas negative emotions(especially anger) cause your mind to be more narrowly focused, or more likely to ‘see the trees’.
Clearly, letting anger become your dominant emotion is unwise, but the effective expression of anger can be entirely appropriate in the right situation. Biswas-Diener, adds:
“Research suggests only ten percent of angry episodes actually lead to some sort of violence, which is evidence anger doesn’t equal aggression.
Anger is neither good nor bad. It’s what you do with it that matters.
Keep checking in with yourself by asking ‘Is my anger helping or harming this situation’”