There are many reasons why Aussie women are not having children. Some long for a family but have issues with fertility. Others have no desire to bring a new life into the world.
Whatever the reason, there continues to be a stigma surrounding women who don’t have children…an idea that they are lacking in some way.
If you are one of the increasing number of Australian women who have chosen not to have kids, you might have heard comments like:
Having a child is the most wonderful thing a woman can do
I wasn’t complete as a woman until I gave birth to my child
You don’t know love until you become a mum
Motherhood taught me to become less selfish
Wendy Matthews – one of Australia’s favourite singers – is familiar with these judgments. Now in her 50s, she says that marriage and kids have never really been on her radar.
“I think there’s a myth that when a woman has a child that there’s this life-long bond and that the child ‘completes’ her. I never wanted to bring a child into the world and never felt the need to create a mini-me,” Wendy says.
As a woman who has achieved much during her creative career, Wendy says that in many ways music has been her child. It has given her the chance to offer her heart and soul to many people around the world.
She also says that she’s the happiest she has ever been – content with her own company, and that of her beloved pet dog, Bear.
“I have girlfriends who are married with kids who can’t spend a single night on their own. I don’t have those kinds of fears. I’m perfectly okay to be alone at night on my property. I love the solitude. It’s peaceful,” Wendy said.