Authentic apologies are a workout for our heart muscle as they require genuine strength and balance.
Saying SORRY, looking the person in the eye coupled with no emotional investment in their response, is an authentic gesture of remorse.
Sometimes saying SORRY seems like the hardest thing on earth to invest in doing; however it’s the cheapest thing to do to save the most expensive gem life offers us our self respect.
The willingness to actually say SORRY when we feel genuine remorse demonstrates to the other person that we can rise above who said what, and who was right or wrong because to us, the respect and love in the relationship is more important than our ego.
Whenever there is conflict or problems in an intimate relationship (including the private one we have with ourselves) one of these three phrases will always create a solution…
- I love you
- How can I help you?
- I’m sorry
So if the need for an apology to our own heart or to another’s arises in future, let’s remember to allow the wounded heart time to digest the apology?
Being truly SORRY requires strength of character from us to accept that a neglected heart has the right to still be upset after the apology. When the heart takes a knockout punch it can take a while to emotionally get backup on our feet even after a heartfelt apology. A wounded heart deserves time and genuine patience to heal. This maturity bolsters our hearts emotional fitness, and also enables the wounded heart to feel our genuine respect for its pain and remaining tenderness.
A strong heartfelt hug with sincere eye contact, topped off with a big kiss also works wonders xxx
Lotsa love Cynthia xxx
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