Self-control is about managing your emotional reactions to situations and people and is particularly important in work situations. In a work environment, we are all expected to behave with a level of “professionalism”. That pretty much rules out temper tantrums, being openly hostile or holding a grudge.
Women who possess superior skills in self-control are better able to maintain control of their emotions. Furthermore, they are more likely to succeed in the workforce because they are able to actively and positively cope with stressful situations. Adrianna Loveday is the organisational psychologist with Randstad Recruitment said people with more self-control are more likely to withstand daily pressures and stay composed, are typically less impulsive, can tolerate frustration better and generally present as more calm, rational and disciplined.
Adrianna said people who lack self-control are likely to get worked up in stressful environments, often find it difficult to control their anxiety and can be highly impulsive and unpredictable.
So, which woman are you and how can you become more controlled?
“Considering that 40% of things women worry about never happen and 30% are things in the past that can’t change, it’s important for busy women to change the way they respond to stress in their daily lives,” Adrianna said.
Adrianna said ways you could increase your self control include:
- Don’t attempt to suppress your emotions. Rather, ask yourself what you need to gain more control of in your life. Reflect on your relationships with others, is it over frequent irrational thoughts? Become aware of the pressure you feel in different circumstances and pay attention to your triggers. This way you’ll become more self-aware and it will ultimately help you respond more positively to situations.
- Respond rather than react to difficult situations by introducing a pause before speaking and acting impulsively.
- Pay particular attention to your behaviour when feeling impatient or frustrated. Take time to pause and give adequate thought to the impact of your words or actions toward others.
- Implement stress and time management skills that increase your capacity to maintain composure, for example, deep breathing or meditation.
Adrianna Loveday is the organisational psychologist with Randstad Recruitment