“Be mindful of your self talk. It’s a conversation with the Universe” …… David James Lees reminds us.
If we withhold SELF ACCEPTANCE towards ourselves as a form of self-punishment we become emotionally malnourished.
When we are in a state of emotional hunger we are not relaxed but anxious. We then often escalate our anxiety believing we need to do more in order to be more, trying to self improve craving in desperation excessive acceptance and approval from others!
So let’s stop substituting busyness as a solution for SELF ACCEPTANCE? It just sets us up for more mania. For when we cease “doing all the shit we think makes us worthy of love” and relax for a moment exhausted and overwhelmed, our level of SELF ACCEPTANCE also ceases. The biggest assignment we all get in our lifetime is discovering whom we really are without all the external busyness, “doing”, and then making and “being” at peace with what we find.
We are only able to truly relax within ourselves and with others when we replace self-punishment with self-nurturing.
For many of us it takes more self-discipline to be kind to ourselves than it does to be cruel. So with the hours before us it might be helpful to remember that no amount of self-improvement can make up for our lack of SELF ACCEPTANCE.
To really unwind ourselves …. we just need to be really kind to ourselves. Really.
Lotsa love Cynthia xxx
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