Do you know that feeling when you get kicked in the guts, figuratively speaking, and the wind is taken out of you? When something unexpected happens to you – a phone call with bad news, an accident that’s left you incapacitated, a loss of a job you love or notice that you need to vacate an apartment you’ve enjoyed for many years… There are always random and often unfortunate moments during the course of life that are there to test us.
All of these things I’ve just mentioned happened this week to people I love…and I include myself in that.
So what do we do when ‘shit happens’? Well for one, we just need to sit and take it in without overreacting. That is not as easy as it sounds but we all know it’s important to put things into perspective and time will always help remedy that. Personally, after I’ve heard bad news I have to just sit and feel the grief, let it sink in, and then pick myself up and move on. We have no other choice.
Do you remember that old trick as kids, that if we bumped our head or we got hurt in some small way, a mate would stomp on your foot, it would obviously hurt but you immediately forgot the original bump on your head? I’m always reminded of that when something painful happens…move the focus elsewhere. We are in control of our reaction. It’s an important reminder…
Anyone who faces a challenge, no matter how big or small, holds the power to choose their response and how they’ll deal with that situation. That’s when your true self is revealed and what an opportunity to draw down deep and explore what you have inside to take on whatever it is that you face.
I always lean towards the positive response that if one door closes another opens or if your health has taken a knock, you do everything in your power to have a positive outlook. I have talked to so many people, and read so many inspiring stories that when looking back in hindsight, these people were thankful of the hard cards they were dealt, for without them they would not be where they were today and in a good place.
I suppose some of it might come back to whether you believe in fate or destiny…or believing more in yourself and being proactive about creating the future you want…that’s the important question to ask.
Personally I believe in a little of both and for what it’s worth this is what I’ve learnt. When you are faced with uncertainty, lean on those who have your back, don’t be afraid to ask for help (true friends want to feel needed), remind yourself how wonderful and strong you are, and remind yourself that you’re capable of achieving anything you want, if you want it bad enough.
Most importantly, getting back to putting everything into perspective, there are so many other people that are much worse off than you and whatever it is you’re facing, so take a minute to look around and truly appreciate and be grateful for what you have, rather than what you have not.