Why you need to break free of your inner princess and how to do it!


By Jeanette Muscat, LPT

From an early age, many of us are exposed to – and enjoy – good old-fashioned storytelling, right? Bedtime stories. Learning to read. It’s all part of the average person’s childhood. Well that’s all good and well, until we look at a bit closer at some of the messaging and social constructs embedded in and, at times, thrust upon us, through this ‘innocent’ storytelling.

Take the classic fairytale, for example. Cinderella, Snow White, Sleeping Beauty. Seemed innocent enough as a kid. But what are they really saying – what role models are they portraying?

And while reality is a far cry from fairytale land… or is it? Do you sometimes feel like you’re acting out these characters in real life? Which one are you? And is it time to “shake it off”?

Let’s look at Cinderella. Or, Cinder-f*cking-rella, as Pretty Woman so kindly pointed out, while simultaneously reinforcing an unwanted stereotype. Always putting herself second, third, last? Playing “second fiddle” to a sibling, a colleague, anyone? Not to mention always cleaning up after people! Is it time you stood up for yourself and stopped being a doormat? Waiting for a prince? Puh-lease.

What about Snow White? “Fair as fair can be” alright, but is that all people see you for? Sure, she’s a good lookin’ gal, and we all want “good hair days” – lots of them – and to find a pair of jeans that makes our arse look great, but when it comes down to it, substance over style wins every time. Do you feel you’re perceived as “beauty without brains” or treated in a particular way because of your looks? It’s time to give that persona a swift kick in the perfectly-fitting pants and embrace your inner power.

Don’t even start me on Sleeping Beauty. Wake up! What are you missing out on? Sleeping your way through life, on autopilot, “on the wheel”, not even noticing what’s going on around you? When was the last time you had a proper conversation with your partner? Or noticed what your kids have been up to? So busy you’re missing everything and may as well be asleep? It’s time to get off, wake up, take action, and start noticing what’s going on in your life.

Or maybe you’re the Prince Charming. Are you that person who feels the need to look after other people? All the freaking time? Are you “the rescuer?” Is it easier for you to focus on helping other people because you don’t want to stop and look at yourself? Or do you think that’s the role you’re supposed to play? Do you think if you stop doing any of these things people will think you’re being selfish? You’re worried about what’s “expected” of you? By whom? Society. Your family. Your friends.

Well, newsflash, storybook characters, get out of the fairytale, and back to reality. It’s time to stop living the life you think you should be living, and start living the life you want to live. Perhaps you already know this, but don’t know where to start? Check out our online life coaching courses for more…

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Jeanette Muscat is a writer, editor, print and digital publisher, and self-confessed word-nerd. To find out more about Jeanette click here

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