Confronting words from Herman Hesse for us all to consider.
Often the people we dislike the most have the most to teach us about our own lack of self acceptance, for they are our unwelcome emotional MIRRORS. They reflect back to us the limits of our own capacity to look for the good, and come from a place of love, instead of fear. For everyone has shitty parts to their character, and everyone has divine dimensions too.
It’s those who consciously or unknowingly challenge our fearful positions that show us our internal walls that block our heart from love, when we choose to focus on only their shittiness.
So today let’s try to remember our harsh judgements and criticism of those we dislike are also flags for us, about ourselves?
This is emotionally demanding work, to hear our own words when we criticise others.
What we refuse to see and own in ourselves will be MIRRORED back at us until we do.
If we want change, we gotta change ourselves. This is what Ghandi is teaching when he says …
“We must become the change we wish to see in our world”…
I’ve gotta confess I catch myself way too often preferring to focus on what my husband needs to look at than looking at myself. When I’m harsh on myself, it shows up in my relationship and I often accuse him of being harsh on me, when he’s just running for cover from Mrs Crankypants!
When I’m at peace with myself, guess what, I’m at peace with him too.
This is the Universal MIRROR we must learn from if we choose to become better versions of ourselves as we mature. It’s not rocket science I know, but in adult life so many of us aren’t slow learners we’re just quick forgetters when it comes to emotional self care.
If we make a habit of picking fault in others, we no doubt do this to ourselves privately too much too.
It’s the old schoolyard wisdom, takes one to know one or spot one, you got one!
Don’t forget today that the reverse is also true too … Those we see as bloody wonderful also MIRROR our hearts glory and divine potential.
Lotsa love Cynthia xxx
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