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Is Finding Your Purpose Destroying You?


Purpose. Many books have been written on the topic. Many conversations have been had. What is purpose and how does one find it? While the discussions may vary a bit, most contain a common theme. What is the theme? That finding and fulfilling your purpose is important. Life isn’t meaningful unless you do.

While at first glance the idea of finding your purpose might seem to make sense, a closer look reveals that it may not actually be beneficial. What happens if you don’t discover your purpose? Or, what if you do discover what you think is your purpose, but you don’t really act on it? Or what if you act on it, sometimes, but are always wondering if you have done enough?

Seeking your purpose in life only ultimately leads to one thing. It leads to you judging you, and judging you always destroys you. If you would like to create your life rather than destroy it, give up the search of looking for and fulfilling your purpose and start to live. What if the purpose of life is to have fun. Are you having any?

Here are my top three tips to stop the endless search of finding and fulfilling your purpose so that you can start to truly live:

1. Enjoy the Adventure

When you are caught in the trap of trying to discover or live your purpose, you lock yourself into that one thing. Whatever that one thing is, you dedicate your whole life to it. How many opportunities do you miss that way? What if, rather than waking up in the morning and looking for ways to fulfill your purpose, you started each day by asking, “Who am I today and what grand and glorious adventures will I have?” Most of us get bored doing the same thing over and over. Most of us like change and fun and contributing to a lot of different things. Starting each day off with this question opens the door to limitless possibilities. There are many opportunities for fun and adventure. There are many ways you can give to others. Rather than limiting yourself to one thing, ask this question and your whole life becomes an adventure.

2. Choose Every 10 Seconds

You may have heard the definition of insanity: doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. When you are driven to fulfill your purpose, whatever you have decided that is, you are closing yourself off to so much. You have decided what it required. You are no longer asking questions. You are no longer actively choosing for you and your life.

To change that, use the choose every ten seconds tool. Here’s how it works. You have 10 seconds to live the rest of your life, what do you choose? That lifetime is over. You have 10 seconds to live the rest of your life. What do you choose? When you choose every 10 seconds, you take your life off of auto pilot and start to have the joy of living.

3. Let Go of Points of View

We all have points of view about all kinds of things. Points of view about ourselves. Points of view about others. Points of view about education, business, politics. There is no shortage of points of view. Here’s the thing with points of view, your point of view creates your reality. What that means is what you say is so, is so.

Apply this to the idea of finding your purpose. If you have the point of view that you must find and fulfil your purpose if you are going to be happy; if life is going to have meaning. Then guess what? Until you find that purpose, are certain you have the right one and are certain you are doing enough to actually fulfill it, you will never be happy. Not much fun.

Not to worry! You can change this. Simply say, “Interesting point of view. I have that point of view,” every time you notice your point of view about purpose. That solid and strong point of view that you have decided is right and real and true becomes simply interesting and when it is simply interesting, you can let it go and choose something else.

The purpose of life truly is to have fun. To look for any other purpose sets you down the endless road of judging you and your life. Rather than destroying you with the search for purpose, let it go. Begin to ask for the adventure of life and living and then choose it. Your choice is all it takes.

Being You Changing the World

Dain Heer is an internationally renowned author, speaker and facilitator of consciousness and change who, for the past 14 years, has been inviting people to embrace their true greatness. His book, Being You, Changing the World is published in nine languages. Join Dr Dain Heer in Sydney for his special evening event Being You, Beyond Problems on August 3rd from 7pm. Learn how to overcome problems with ease and move into creation and possibility. Find more information and tickets available here.

Dain Heer

Dr. Dain Heer is an internationally renowned author, speaker and facilitator of consciousness and change. His latest book is 'Being You, Changing the World - Is Now the Time?'. For over 14 years Dain has been inviting people to embrace their true greatness.

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