When we are wounded and enduring crippling emotional pain it is hard to have HOPE.
Many, many times I’ve felt ready to give up, to stop trying to be a better person. Honestly some nights I have been at peace, as I put my head on the pillow so sad and fatigued, with the thought of never waking up again.
Feeling alone, like a loser, a flawed, emotionally incompetent human being that nobody really likes is far more familiar than feeling loved, included and valued for some of us.
When those we’ve loved in our formative years have abandoned, ganged up and excluded us, been violent and abusive … loving or belonging just feels way too dangerous.
Pain and isolation feels safer than loving relationships, for it’s proven to be more reliable and more predictable in our past.
The only way to end an intimate relationship with our pain and actually heal is to share and surrender our secret past fears so we can believe in love again.
It’s bloody hard work learning to become willing to be gentle with ourselves when being emotionally harsh has been a way of life.
Allowing a safe person to gently apply love’s disinfectant to our hearts wounds is our cure.
We might instinctively wince and want to move away, but love brings HOPE .
I love reminding myself when I am low on HOPE crippled with pain and fear to remember what HOPE’S letters actually stand for:
H = HOLD
O = ON,
P = PAIN
E = ENDS.
So when our wounds feel overwhelming, we just need to remember what HOPE really is about …holding on to love ‘cos pain (fear) does end once we let go of our fears.
Fear blocks our ability to HOPE.
Another tip that helps immensely when HOPE has been hard to find in my darkest times is remembering to be grateful for those who are still here and who do still love us.
So when life gets really emotionally dark, let’s not forget to look up at the stars ‘cos that’s when they twinkle the most?
May love and HOPE soothe any heart pain you may encounter today.
Lotsa love from my heart to yours xxx
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