By Balance Wellness Coach Noni Boon
When you were a child, you believed in magic and fairy tales. You trusted in your special powers and knew you were a superhero. You tried new things with fierce determination and relied on your ability to conquer and succeed. You saw the world as a mystical place full of adventure and bewitchment. You were fascinated by simple things and enchanted by the ordinary. You were impulsive, curious, and ready to explore anything and everything that presented a question.
What happened to you? When did you stop being that magical, innocent, mystical child? Has that part of you disappeared, or just been buried over by adulthood, responsibility and the stresses of everyday life?
As an archetype, your ‘inner child’ never leaves you. There is always a part of you that can zip back to being fun loving, spontaneous, and joyous. When you were a child, you didn’t plan your day and work to a schedule, you simply did whatever felt good at the time and then moved on to the next thing that drew your attention. Today, however, you need to diarise your social events, plan in time for holidays, adventure, rest, and relaxation. Your life runs to the beat of a tight schedule and precious time expenditure. I’m wondering how to find a good healthy balance with all of this, how to combine planning with spontaneity and impulsion. Here are my ideas…
Imagine turning up to the airport, suitcase packed for sunny weather and cocktails by the sea but not yet knowing where you are going. Does that freak you out? Could you be that spontaneous? Could you take that sort of risk? As an adult, we often get very uptight about the details and the right reservation and everything being confirmed and reconfirmed in order for us to feel safe and secure. Imagine throwing caution to the wind and just going with whatever shows up. Trusting in the divine synchronicity of ‘chance’.
Here’s the plan… Make a date with your partner or your bestie and leave out the details. Agree to meet at a certain time or place and simply take it from there. Perhaps you could meet under a bridge and just start walking or hook up at the cinema with no idea what movie you will see or go for dinner with no reservation and just ‘wing it’. Better still, plan a long weekend and just get in the car and drive North, South, West, or East. Go to the train station and see what destination lights up for you. Trust that you will be safe, taken care or, and allow life to open up for you.
Some of the best experiences of my life have been spontaneous. Some of the best decisions I have ever made have happened through saying ‘yes’ without ever really thinking it through. I clearly remember going to the East Coast Championships, a horse event that took place in 2002. I had no intention of buying a horse; I was simply invited along to spectate the event. At the end of the night, a large warm blood gelding was lead into the arena. Something took hold of me and I can only describe it as ‘love at first sight’. Thirteen years later, that horse is one of the best things that ever happened to me and an amazing teacher and companion.
Just over a year ago, on a wet weekend, my husband and I decided to take a drive north to check out the area around Pacific Palms. We planned to stay the night and look at the farming land along with the beachfront real estate. We had always dreamed of owning a beach house but never been financial enough to make it happen. We ventured out simply to find something to do rather than sit at home and watch the rain hit the windows. We came across a little weatherboard cottage for sale just 300 metres stroll to Boomerang Beach. It had been waiting for us for the past five years. The vendors were beyond keen to sell and we just jumped in. On the drive home, we negotiated the price and scored ourselves the beach house we had always wanted. We worked out all the rest as the process went along.
When life treads heavily on you, don’t loose touch with the child in you. Find your spontaneity and sense of adventure and bring it back to the surface.
Don’t ever forget about the magic of life and ‘expect’ miracles to happen for you every single day. You have a childish part of you that needs to visit and play. Take your shoes off and walk barefoot. Follow a child down the slippery dip rather than waiting impatiently at the other end. Dive in the deep end of the pool and forget about having to blow dry your hair. Eat fairy floss at the show and occasionally ‘skip’ down the road just because you can. Laugh out loud at the movies and let loose with a milk moustache from time to time. Be a kid. It’s a very big part of who you are.
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Noni Boon is a woman who genuinely cares for people. It gives her great pleasure to be able to live her life helping others to discover their true potential. Her ability to motivate and connect with women – from corporate leaders to stay-at-home mums – has allowed her to bear witness to many amazing transformations. You can learn more about her online wellness course here.