But too often we think that balance will include what ”someone else has”, whether that be grandkids, a nicer house, a better career, more interesting hobbies or expensive holidays.
And that’s exactly why Megan Dalla-Camina wrote her book “Getting Real About Having It All”.
“Everyone has an opinion about having it all, and women are very vocal about this discussion,” she said.
“What this does is shames a lot of people and people feel they should be at a certain place in their life – that they should be happy, should be healthy, all of these ‘shoulds’, when really the only thing it’s about is where you are at in your life and what you want for yourself,” Megan says.
“There is not one ‘should’ in my book.
“If we could get more women and more men happy with that, happy with the choices they make for themselves and tuning out this diatribe in society about what we should be doing, we would have a lot more happy people.”
In her book, Megan Dalla-Camina dedicates eleven chapters to helping her readers find their passion, create a life vision and get happy and she does this by describing her own, very personal journey.
She describes her life vision and surprisingly declares, “there you have it. I can happily, honestly say that today, I am pretty much living my vision”.
So now the book has been published, is she still living her vision and how does she stay happy?
“It’s swings and roundabouts, hills and valleys, but what I say and what I’ve experienced, is that when you become clear on what elements of your life vision are really important to you, things tend to organise themselves around you,” she said.
“I’m absolutely on that path.”
Getting clear on what life should look like and allowing yourself and trusting yourself to create it is really one of the cornerstones of true happiness according to Megan.
“As you would know from reading some of my story, I spent over a decade as a workaholic, literally working myself into complete burn out,” she said.
“If I had listened or tuned into myself, I knew that it was not what I wanted to be doing. My body and my soul wanted something else.
“I’m a single mum with financial responsibility for my child, my mortgage and all of it, so it wasn’t like I could just change everything tomorrow. It’s been a journey but I made that choice. So choosing that it was going to be different is the first step.”
So how do you know when you’re living your dream and then enjoy it? Megan says the key is learning to be grateful.
“Gratitude is a practice. It is an amazing tool for building happiness and I strongly recommend it to Balance members or anyone who wants to build happiness,” she said.
“Basically, it’s about sitting in the moment and appreciating what you have right now.
“In my book I write about how we spend all our energy moving to the next thing. When we learn to sit in the moment, savor the moment and be grateful and express true gratitude for that, happiness will come to us.”
In Chapter 9 of her book, Megan talks about a simple exercise called, Three Good Things.
“This comes out of a body of work from positive psychology. What you do is every night before you go to bed, sit and write down three good things that happened to you that day,” she said
“They need to be specific. Like, I’m grateful Luca told me he loved me before I went to bed or I’m grateful for the walk I had today and the birds I saw in the trees.”
“Eventually you build up an amazing sense of awareness in your life and it’s a five minute practice.”
Megan says journaling these three good things daily is also an amazing thing to do with kids to help them embrace the good stuff and go forth with a positive attitude
“It has enormous neurological and physiological impacts.”
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