A word from Deb

Flip your perspective.

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This article originally appeared in Virgin Voyeur Magazine.

I received an email the other day from a close work colleague. It’s the kind of email that stops you in your tracks because of the obvious pain and sadness in which its written. It was to let me know that after two decades of carving out a very successful role in the company he’d been working for, his position was made redundant and it was his farewell note. It’s never an email you wish to personally write and not one you take any pleasure in reading.

We caught up for a drink and talked through the emotional roller-coaster that was expected, shock, sadness, anxiety, anger, grief…I just listened and gave him a giant hug.

We chatted about his many achievements and experiences over the years and the incredible journey he’d been privileged to be a part of…traveling the world, building up a fantastic team of people and celebrating great success.

Looking back, knowing that this massive part of his career had come to an end, I asked him to think back to when the position was first offered and how he felt then. Could he ever have imagined, in his wildest dreams the incredible experiences he’d been a part of and the achievements they had collectively accomplished?

I suggested he “flip his perspective.” Rarely do we take time to look back and celebrate our wins, pat ourselves on the back and self-congratulate for a job well done. So perhaps this was the perfect time to pause and reflect on a successful career, soak up the freedom, have some fun and relax. As the weeks roll on, a change in mindset will deliver great benefits and a clearer perspective.

Those of us lucky to be employed in the workforce, appreciate there are no guarantees and inevitably, things may well come to an end. Of course, we never want to see what that physically looks and feels like because the comfort zone can be a happy place to be. We build our life around it, buying our home, setting up for the kid’s education, booking holidays, and then there’s the social side which is as important; being part of a team, networking, building and maintaining friendships. It’s a routine that becomes very familiar and feels as comfy as a pair of old Ugg boots.

Many people go through very similar situations, and of course, it completely throws them off balance which is expected. I like to think most of us have a ‘Plan B’…it can be a little sketchy around the edges but nonetheless a strategy/action plan that gives you the security of mind. Ultimately, it’s up to you to have your own back covered in times of unexpected turbulence.

We all know the adage “when one door closes, another opens.” Personally, I think it needs to be slammed shut and locked before you even notice any other doors!  As hard as it is, perhaps we should trust that the universe will guide us towards whatever destiny has in place. There is only so much of life in our control.

 

Deborah Hutton

Deborah Hutton is the publisher of Balance by Deborah Hutton. She is passionate about helping woman to define their own recipe for balance

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