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4 Reasons to date yourself


Let’s face it, very few of us are taught how to function in this world and keep a strong sense of ourselves as well.  We can easily get caught in the minutae of our day to day life giving everything we have for our family, work, relationships and responsibilities – and forget to take time for ourselves and the things we love that make life worth living.

Here are four reasons why you need to schedule regular dates (and I recommend at least 1 hour a day and one full day each week) with the most important person in your life – YOU!

1. To acknowledge the value of you

Many of us get so caught up in the role we play in our relationships, families and careers that we start to “divorce” ourselves in the process. We stop doing the things we love and start putting all of our energy into other people and things and end up leaving ourselves entirely out of the computation of our lives! By creating a date with yourself, you begin to make YOU a valuable product again … even if it’s just one hour a day.

What is it you used to do for yourself that you stopped doing because you ran out of time? What is it you’d like to do, just for fun, but haven’t because it’s just for you?

When you value yourself and take time for you, it nurtures and expands your overall capacity for giving to others. Taking one hour a day for you can actually change the people and world around you.

2. To reconnect with your body

When was the last time you were truly grateful to your body and didn’t judge it? When was the last time you really stopped and listened to what your body was telling you?  What if that aches, pains and diseases are your body’s way of saying “hey, you need to give this some attention, please look at this!”

Taking quality time for yourself is an important part of rediscovering your body and learning how to be with it as a 50/50 partner in life, and not something you have to fight or control.

Your sweet body has always been there for you, and desires to contribute to you – what if today was the day you and your body began a new relationship, one that was more caring and rewarding than you can imagine?

3. To rediscover your desires

Time alone with you without expectation or pressure is a great way of creating a space for yourself where you get to reconnect and rediscover what you would truly like in life now and in the future.

Give yourself the gift of taking time to ask yourself, if you could be, do or have anything, what would you choose? What would you like to create that you haven’t yet? What desires do you have in life that you haven’t even allowed yourself to consider until now? What if now is the time?

4. Just for you, just for fun

Have you ever done anything for any other reason than it is just fun for you? How much more joy would we have in our lives if we would be willing to choose everything we do just for the joy of it and never need any other reason for choosing? Use this time for yourself to practice choosing something “Just for you, just for fun.” And if you find yourself beginning to justify taking time out for yourself, stop it. You don’t need a reason, just do it because you can, and because it’s fun!

Scheduling a date for you is a huge part of rediscovering you.  The quality of your relationship with you is the one by which all your other connections, interactions and choices will be influenced. What if now is the time to begin receiving the wonderful gift of you that you are in your life and in the world?

Dr Dain Heer will be in Australia for a series of workshops, November 2015. A taste of Being will be streamed live from Noosa on 27th November form 7pm – http://beingyouclass.com/noosa/

Dain Heer

Dr. Dain Heer is an internationally renowned author, speaker and facilitator of consciousness and change. His latest book is 'Being You, Changing the World - Is Now the Time?'. For over 14 years Dain has been inviting people to embrace their true greatness.


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