A word from Deb

Do you value your friendships?

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I don’t like to bore you with my personal trials and tribulations so I won’t. Suffice to say the last few weeks and months have presented their fair share of challenges and tough times. What I really wanted to reflect on was the value of good friendships and how we must never take them for granted and always treasure them for the gift they are.

For me, my friendships are like gold, especially given I have very few immediate family members to hold as my own, having lost my two brothers and a non-existent relationship with my father. There really only is Mum, my two nephews (who all live out of Sydney) and the most divine Aunt and Uncle in Queensland. Please don’t think I’m complaining just merely mapping the landscape for you.

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Many months ago, hating winter as I do and spotting a long weekend in the calendar, I booked a few days in Fiji to slip on the summer shorts, grab the golf clubs and hit the fairways. As my world began to unwind it was becoming clear this mid-year break was heading towards being a different journey than first planned. Not that I have a problem spending time by myself but if you have ever booked a golf holiday with hours spent salivating over every magic hole, the thought of playing every day by yourself is rather dull and lonely. Golf, for those of you who don’t indulge, is very much a sport of mate-ship, fun and friendly competition.

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The wonderful thing I continually rejoice in with my treasured friendships is the way we connect in a very open honest way, sharing our fears, desires and hopes, knowing when you do, you are in a safe and caring environment. The friendships I hold dear mean the world to me.

Funnily enough my best pals of all different ages (both men and women) come from different backgrounds and with different interests but the one thing we have in common is our ability to laugh at the world, ourselves and each other; to celebrate our wins, mourn our losses and be grateful for our good luck. They exist so strongly for many reasons, primarily because we trust each other deeply; we prioritise the time in our diaries to see each other; we listen when we need to; we step up when it’s necessary and we never let each other feel alone. Sure we can drive each other nuts, none of us are perfect, but we accept our differences and celebrate the bonds we share regardless.

I’m incredibly grateful to have a wonderful mate, (more like a god-daughter) who dropped everything to be with me for a few days. Sure the sweet sounds of playing golf in warm temperatures sweetened the deal but she went well beyond the call to make sure I wasn’t walking the fairways alone. With good friends there’s no pressure to bury down into deep conversation if you don’t wish to – the beauty being that you can sit easily in absolute silence, very much at peace.

What we need as human souls is a caring ear and acceptance that comes from someone who knows you inside-out. Someone who can put a different perspective on life when you’re clouded in confusion. Isn’t that what your best pals do? I like to think that is what I also offer my good friends.

If I can pass on one thing I have learned in life, is that friendships are worthy of our respect and our commitment. If you work at them, make the time, give of yourself openly and respect the bond you have created together, you will be a greater person for it. To all my cherished pals, thank you for always being there for me.

Hugs

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Deborah Hutton

Deborah Hutton is the publisher of Balance by Deborah Hutton. She is passionate about helping woman to define their own recipe for balance

4 Comments

  1. MC

    June 12, 2015 at 9:23 pm

    Thanks for the honesty in your story. It’s a great tribute to your friends and describes perfectly what good friends are about. Make sure you cook ‘m something fabulous coz there is nothing better than cooking for family and friends and sharing the meal with them.
    I absolutely value my friendships and my friends are worth their weight in gold, no doubt about that. Without them, I would not have the life I have today, they are my family. They don’t judge me, something I overdosed on when growing up.
    In fact, I need to let them know that that is how I feel about them. Thanks for reminding us Deb!

    • Deborah

      Deborah

      August 20, 2015 at 8:38 pm

      No problem MC. Thanks for reading 🙂

  2. Andrew

    August 20, 2015 at 10:57 am

    Dear Deborah,
    I watched the Golf Show yesterday, on which you made an appearance, which prompted me to go to your web-site to hear further about you and your work. I am most touched by your comments about friendships and relationships which sum up so many things so well. It must be very difficult to have suffered the loss of family but you have obviously gained so much from those around you and I am sure they receive more from you in return.
    I am President of a country golf club in NSW – if you would like to come to play golf in our town and inspire women to participate in friendship and the game, please let me know at the email address I have included. I think you have so much to contribute.

    • Deborah

      Deborah

      August 20, 2015 at 8:38 pm

      Hi Andrew,
      Thank you for taking the time to check out Balance and for your lovely comment. I’ll definitely send you an email next time I’m looking for a new course to try.
      Cheers
      Deb

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