A word from our coaches

Dealing with disappointment



By Noni Boon.

Disappointment is a natural part of life. Something happens to you, somebody does something to you or something doesn’t come your way. It is normal to feel disappointed, discouraged, and demotivated. Things haven’t turned out the way they were supposed to or the way you expected them to.

Disappointment raises a lot of questions and tests your faith like nothing else. Of course you are going to feel a loss, a sense of failure or betrayal. Most people would prefer to have full control over the events that take place in their life and force the direction of flow so outcomes and circumstances meet their approval and expectations. This is not how life works and there is a very good reason for why it doesn’t go this way.

Firstly, whatever you choose to ‘think’ about any event or outcome is an illusion. It is simply one perception out of a possible million ways of looking at something. Your perception then becomes your ‘reality’ attaching to it your very own personalised ‘feelings’, gathered and influenced by your past experiences of the same nature. What if you were to change your perception around a particular event and instead of disappointment, choose to feel wonder and curiosity instead? What if you were to trust in the unknown, embrace the change, and move into full-blown faith that everything is exactly as it is supposed to be?

If you were able to flow with change and know that temporary set backs, changes in relationships, endings, course corrections, and what appears to be losses, are inevitably for your highest good, how then would you perceive your disappointments? Disappointment as an emotion is given the chance to flourish when you believe that you have been dealt a bad hand in life. What if that job you missed out on happened because you are meant to start your own business. What if that relationship ended because there is somebody much more suited to you crossing paths with you next week? What if that window closed because the Universe is about to open up a great big set of double doors?

It is a little frightening to walk into the ‘unknown’. It’s a bit like walking into a dark room. You don’t know if you’ll bump into something, trip over a piece of furniture or meet an unsavoury character hiding behind the curtains. It is natural to feel afraid and tentative. Having faith is like turning on the night light. You can’t quite see everything but you can make out shapes, avoid obstacles, and pacify yourself regarding the bogeyman. When you are next faced with disappointment, jump into a mindset of holding faith that everything will work out in your favour. It is not called ‘blind faith’ for no reason. Having faith requires you to walk blind for a short time until everything transforms and the tables turn for you to be able to celebrate what started out as a bitter disappointment.

Noni Boon

Noni Boon is a Balance Wellbeing Coach, international best-selling author, motivational speaker and guest writer. She thrives on working with people to achieve total holistic wellbeing and improving their lives to the point of flourishing as opposed to just “surviving”.  For more information on her online learning program ‘Share’ CLICK HERE


Noni Boon

Noni Boon is a woman who genuinely cares for people. It gives her great pleasure to be able to live her life helping others to discover their true potential. Noni is a writer, international bestselling author and motivational speaker who holds a Certificate in Holistic Counselling and Communication. She’s also an artist, mother and nature-lover. Learn how to design the life you want with Noni’s online personal development course.

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