It’s strange how quickly life can take a turn. How things you thought were ‘certain’, all of a sudden become questionable.
In 2007 my life was pretty damn good. I was hosting lifestyle shows on Channel 9, flying around the country promoting Qantas, had my own homewares range with Kmart, was doing some lovely work endorsing international cosmetic brands, golf courses and car companies. There was not a thing to complain about with annual summer trips overseas and weekends away…La Dolce Vita, the sweet life!
Within 18 months, all these things had fallen apart. Clients weren’t renewing contracts, my manager retired and I found myself wondering about the future and how I was going to financially sustain myself.
As some of you know, one of my greatest regrets in life is not having completed my tertiary education. I have no HSC or university degree behind me…so when my career started to crumble, I lost confidence that I had anything more to offer the world. What the hell was I going to do now?
I remember sitting with my now business partner Sonya, with wine glass in hand and shedding the odd tear as I did something that is difficult to do – I asked for help. Generally, I think men struggle with this more than women… we seem to have more of an ability to swallow our pride and admit that things are not working… we are not okay… we need a hand, some guidance.
Have you noticed what happens when you let go of pretending that you are ‘okay’ and just ask for help? Something miraculous occurs…you get help!
I actually think most of us want to help each other…we’re just waiting for that invitation from our partner or friend to ‘let us in’. There are so many people who have great advice and wisdom to share with us. There’s an endless network of support…all we have to do is reach out.
Sonya began talking to me about the things I had achieved over the years, the reputation I’d built for myself, the things I was capable of still achieving. A few years later in 2012 together we launched Balance…and I haven’t looked back!
When was the last time you asked for help? This week we’re featuring stories on the theme of Equal Future (#equalfuture) – an initiative by ANZ that is all about supporting and helping women. We will be questioning why women are falling behind men financially – and what needs to be done to address the fact that systems are still holding women back from achieving.
What help do women need to succeed in the workplace? What needs to change in order for women to get the top jobs in politics? How can we help the next generation of girls become the very best that they can be? Perhaps you have some ideas and suggestions?