You may be celebrating Valentine’s day at home, work or long-distance with your partner and it’s only natural to wonder, “How can I make Valentine’s Day special this year?”
What if you could get the answer to this question from the most influential relationship experts? That’s precisely what we did at Fresh Flowers ahead of Valentine’s Day. We asked them to share their top tips to show your partner some extra love this year.
Read on to learn more about the best way to celebrate Valentine’s Day 2018, as recommended by experts!
Bring them flowers, spend quality time with them
Deborah Hutton, media personality and founder of Balance by Deborah Hutton
The best gift you can give your partner this Valentine’s Day is your undivided attention.
We multitask on our phones, computers and smart watches constantly, because, let’s face it, we can. But having our attention divided up amongst loved ones we are with, in person, and having distractions on the end of a device can inevitably cause strain on relationships.
If you ask me, our love and addiction to the internet and our constant connection with others through technology is the most significant threat to our relationships. The average person will spend nearly two hours on social media every day – that equates to roughly 5 years over a lifetime!
So this Valentine’s Day, choose to be with someone face to face, bring them flowers in person and spend quality time with them because you care. Quarantine that time and make a commitment to yourself that the other person is more important than your phone. Give them your undivided attention, turn the phone to flight-mode and live in the moment. Happy Valentine’s! xx Deb.
Acknowledge your partner
Melissa Ferrari, psychotherapist, Melissa Ferrari Counselling & Psychotherapy
Valentine’s Day is a great day to surprise your partner with something a little different. It’s a great day to try something new. I am a couple therapist that has worked with couples for over 20 years and here is my top suggestion for something you can do for your partner on Valentines Day:
Acknowledge your partner in a different way just for the day of Valentine’s, even if only for a few minutes.
Kiss that little bit longer, look into your partner’s eyes and give them your full attention when they tell you about their day (don’t play on your phone). These things help your partner feel special, cherished and loved. Look at them like they are new to you and that you like what you see. Once you do this on Valentine’s Day you can keep doing it every day and watch your relationship grow closer and more intimate.
Turn off your phone. The entire day.
Mark Rosenfeld, Founder, Make Him Yours
If there is one gift I believe every lover wants and deserves this Valentine’s Day, it’s presence. Not the birthday presents kind, the kind where life really stops. In a society where we’re so accessible to everyone all the time, the thing many of us are truly craving in our relationships are moments where our partner stops and looks at no one but us. Really sees us. The highest form of quality time.
There’s one key action step you can take to do this. Turn off your phone. The entire day. If you can’t do the whole day, agree with your partner the no-technology time you’ll set aside.
I really believe this is the greatest gift that many men and women are craving from their partners this Valentine’s Day. Be there with your lover.
Take the pressure off, think about what makes your partner smile
Howard Todd-Collins, Director/Psychotherapist, Men and Relationships Counselling
Millions of men and women sweat nervously as Valentine’s Day approaches. Will I buy the right gift? Which flowers should I choose for my partner? Does how much I spend equate to how I value and love my relationship? Will my partner judge our relationship by the quality of my gift? What’s the right thing to do?
Expressions of love may never be captured in one day. Take the pressure off and think for a moment:
– What does my partner like?
– What do they enjoy?
– What makes them smile?
If you don’t know, now is the time to find out!
This Valentine’s Day don’t wait another 364 days to let them know how you feel about them.
Reinforce the fact that you are both each other’s top priority in life
Michelle Archard, Romance Expert, HowToBeRomantic
Discuss a daily ritual you can adopt as a couple. Romance is about the daily positive things you do to reinforce the fact that you are both each other’s top priority in life.
It doesn’t have to be complicated or cost any money. Maybe it’s a 6 second kiss each time you part in the morning. Or a lunchtime text message. Or stroking your partner every night as they fall asleep.
Choose a ritual and do it each day. Adapt the ritual as your life changes but keep up the habit of making daily contributions to keeping the romance alive.