In this final interview, Deb has a personal counselling session with Dr Dain Heer about whether it is better to be right or happy in relationships and is given some practical tools to help her (and us!) resolve future conflicts.
While Deborah acknowledges that being right doesn’t always make you happy, Dain goes further to state “most often it creates separation between you and your partner.”
Dain then gives us a couple of tactics to implement that will allow us to get into a better state of deciding if we want to be right or happy.
“There is a really simple tool you can use,” said Dain.
“When you get that energy (to fight and prove you’re right), take a breath and say, interesting point of view. I have this point of view,” said Dain.
“Each time you say it, the energy will shift and change a little bit,” said Dain.
“What will happen is the need to fight dissipates,” said Dain.
“The other thing you can do is you can tell your partner, you’re right, I’m wrong, and you say it three times,” said Dain.
Dain acknowledges the difficulty in using these tools in a conflict situation with partners especially if the dynamic has been set over a long period of time.
“But the gift of not having to be right, is total freedom,” said Dain.
About Dr Dain Heer
Dr Dain Heer is an internationally renowned author, speaker and facilitator of consciousness, and change and for the last 14 years has been inviting people to embrace their true greatness. His book, Being You, Changing the World – Is Now the Time? is published in seven languages. Dain offers his life coaching course online at learn.balancebydeborahhutton.com.au