I believe we all have capabilities beyond what we give ourselves credit, so why do we often mark ourselves down in the company of others who we perceive as being smarter and more successful than us? Perhaps it’s just human nature but where does our self-doubt stem from and how can we become our own advocate?
I’m often reading about some amazing person who has conquered a personal challenge, built an empire from humble beginnings, or changed the world for the better and am in awe of their brilliance and foresight. Human stories of triumph inspire me greatly which is why I’m so drawn to real-life tales. It makes me want to be a better person, but at the same time, I feel my vulnerability kick in and start questioning my self-worth and personal contribution. Is it my ego testing me?
Ask yourself this but hey, be brutally honest! How supportive are you of yourself, do you believe you are capable of achieving your goals and backing yourself all the way? Or do you have a tendency to self-sabotage at a critical time, losing your confidence in the process?
One of my dearest friends Lyndall Mitchell, who also happens to be a highly successful life coach and contributor to Balance keeps reminding me that every person on the planet, no matter how confident or successful will at some stage suffer crippling self-doubt. She writes about it in her new book Chaos to Calm. Having co-penned it with fellow life coach Shannah Kennedy, they remind us that this is just being human and that each and every day we have the opportunity to work through this feeling and own it. No matter what life throws at us, the choice is always ours to move in a forward direction.
Personally, my sense of self-confidence feels a little like the ocean tide, some days it’s a huge swell with a commanding presence and other days it’s barely a ripple. It can also relate to how overwhelmed and stressed I’m feeling at the time.
Lyndall and Shannah wisely point out that confidence is a skill that can be learned and developed and that the rewards of having courage and conviction will allow us to live up to our best self.
It reminded me of a recent keynote where I was reflecting on certain times in the past where I had overcome self-doubt and succeeded, only to enjoy that feeling of satisfaction and pride. Perhaps we need to acknowledge our own achievements more often and celebrate who we are.